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Queer Polyday

What is it?

Queer polyday is a day for openly non-monogamous people who are also queer or LGBTIA+ to get together to talk about their relationships and experiences, or just to hang out.

When is it?

It’s happening on 20th February 2016 from 10am to 6pm.
You might be interested in also attending an event in Manchester the following day on polyamory, consensual non-monogamy and relationship anarchy which a different group is organising, and making a weekend of it. Details of that event are here.

Where is it?

It’s taking place at Leicester LGBT Centre, 15 Wellington St, Leicester LE1 6HH.

Who is facilitating it?

We’re a group of queer and poly people who’ve been involved in similar events in the past, including Grant Denkinson, DK Green, Rhona O’Sullivan, Sophie Gamwell, Lucy Wayland, Sy Parker, Nick McGlynn, and Meg-John Barker. We’re very much facilitators rather than organisers – which means we’ve booked a space and will suggest some workshop topics, but it’s open to everyone who attends to facilitate workshops and discussions (if they want to).

Who is it for?

The day is for anybody who has openly non-monogamous relationships of any kind, and who sees themselves asqueer or LGBTIA+ (or in relationships with people who are, or part of those communities).
It’s up to you to decide whether it feels like the right space for you, we won’t be policing who attends! Take a look at the information below to see whether it seems like a good fit for the kinds of conversations that you’re looking for.
We’d respectfully suggest that it isn’t the right event for anybody who is brand new to open non-monogamy or who doesn’t relate to queer or LGBTIA+ at all. The Polyday event which happens most years would be a better place if that’s you and you’re looking for a space to meet people and learn more.
Queer Polyday is a discussion and support event, it’s not designed to be a dating, cruising, or hook-up event.

What will happen on the day?

That’s pretty flexible. At the moment we plan to start with some optional icebreakers so we can get to know each other. Then there’ll be workshop spaces throughout the day, some of which will already have facilitators, and some of which will be open to add your own workshop or discussion topic. There’ll be space to relax, chat, or do crafts throughout the day if you don’t want to do workshops.
The kinds of topics we’ll be covering in workshops/discussions include:
  • Trans and open non-monogamy
  • What does it mean to do relationships queerly?
  • Mental health in our queer poly relationships
  • Safer queer poly sex
  • Queer poly parenting
  • Cultivating consensual cultures in our communities

How much does it cost?

It’s a free event, but do feel free to leave a donation for Leicester LGBT centre who are hosting us – if you can afford it – to support their wonderful work.

Is it accessible?

All the rooms are wheelchair accessible including the toilets, and an induction loop will be available to assist those using compatible hearing aids.
Children are welcome but must be accompanied by someone responsible for their care. Some workshops and discussions won’t be appropriate for children.
We’re not funded for this event so unfortunately we can’t provide any additional services like counselling or childcare.

What are the groundrules?

As facilitators, we’re suggesting the following groundrules to try to cultivate as safe and respectful a space as possible. There’ll also be time at the start of the event to add to these if you want to.
  • Please respect the privacy of everyone else at the event and don’t name anybody to people who aren’t attending, or on social media. Some of us are very open about our relationships and identities. Some of us prefer to keep them private from the wider world.
  • Please treat people respectfully. People at the event will have diverse genders, sexualities, relationship styles, nationalities, ages, disabilities, class and cultural backgrounds, and political and religious beliefs. Please try not to make assumptions about these, and to take somebody’s self-identity at face value.
  • Please treat yourself, and others, kindly. Events like this can be quite intense. It’s worth remembering to ensure that you get enough food, drink and rest times in the day. When you have a comment to make, think first about whether it might feel too personally exposing for you afterwards, or triggering for others, and also whether it leaves space for other people to express different points of view.
  • Please treat people consensually: check in before touching somebody in any way or taking their photograph, and unless you get an enthusiastically positive response, don’t do it. Try not to put people under any pressure to do anything whether they are people you know or new people.

How do I get there?

Leicester is in the East Midlands and has good connections to the rest of the country.


The venue is walking distance from Leicester Station, on the Midland Mainline from London St. Pancras to South Yorkshire with direct trains from London (75 minutes) Birmingham (50 minutes) and elsewhere.


The reasonably pleasant St. Margarets bus station on Gravel St is within walking distance of the venue and is served by National Express, Megabus and others. A bus from London takes about 3 hours.


East Midlands Airport is the closest to Leicester. Birmingham or London Luton Airports may also be suitable.


Leicester is about two hours drive from London or Manchester, 1 hour from Birmingham. The M1, M6 and M69 pass close to the city. There is some on-street parking (metered) near the venue and various car parks close by in the city centre. There are park and ride services from Meynells Gorse on Hinckley Road, near M1 Junction 21.


The River Soar meets the Grand Union Canal at Leicester and continues on through Loughborough and north Leicestershire to the River Trent. The river runs within walking distance of the venue.


Leicester is on National Routes 6 and 63, and is easy to get around by bicycle. There is outside bicycle parking space at the venue and a secure bike park in the Town Hall (Town Hall Square and Horsefair Street) with shop and servicing.
You can hire bikes in Leicester, including ones for people with special needs and there are cycling maps.

Where can I stay?

If you want to stay over, the official tourist information site for Leicester lists various places to Or pop in to: Visit Leicester, 51 Gallowtree Gate, Leicester
Or phone them on: 0116 299 4444 (Open 7 days a week, 9.30am – 5.30pm (Sunday and Bank Holidays 10am – 4pm).
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